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Breakups happen for many different reasons, so it makes sense that there is more than one way to approach winning someone back. A couple separated by a jealous third person needs something different from a couple worn down by years of arguments. A partner who left in a moment of anger is in a different place from one who drifted away slowly.
In more than twenty years of practice, Psychic Mbona has found that most reconciliation work falls into four broad approaches. This article explains each one, when it is used, and what you can do yourself to support it.
The four approaches
- 1. Clearing obstacles and interference
- 2. Softening anger and hurt
- 3. Rekindling attraction and memory
- 4. Strengthening commitment for the future
Way 1: Clear the obstacles
Sometimes a relationship ends not because the love has died but because something has come between two people. That might be a rival, interfering relatives, gossip, or what many traditions describe as negative energy or a curse. While those obstacles remain, any attempt at reconciliation is like trying to push open a door that something heavy is leaning against.
In this approach, the first ritual focuses on cleansing and removal: clearing negative energy around you and your former partner, and weakening outside influences. Read more about cleansing black magic and spiritual protection.
What you can do: step back from people who stir up conflict, avoid discussing the relationship on social media, and keep your own space calm and positive.
Way 2: Soften anger and hurt
Many breakups end in a storm of harsh words. Even when both people still care, pride and pain can keep them apart. The second approach uses rituals designed to calm anger, ease resentment and open the heart to forgiveness — on both sides.
These rituals often involve calming herbs, white or blue candles, and words spoken to invite peace and understanding. Psychic Mbona may also give you a simple daily practice to release your own bitterness, because reconciliation requires both people to soften.
What you can do: resist the urge to send angry or guilt-inducing messages. Write down what you are feeling instead. When the time is right, a short apology without excuses can be powerful.
Way 3: Rekindle attraction and memory
Over time, relationships can lose their spark. Routine, stress and familiarity can make partners forget why they fell in love. The third approach focuses on reawakening attraction and reminding your former partner of the good times you shared.
Rituals in this category may use personal items, photographs or names, together with herbs and candles associated with love and passion. They aim to bring warm memories to the surface and make the other person think of you with fondness. See also love attraction spells and spell to make him love you more.
What you can do: invest in yourself — your health, appearance, confidence and interests. People are drawn to those who seem settled and happy, not desperate.
Way 4: Strengthen commitment for the future
Getting back together is one thing; staying together is another. The fourth approach is used once contact has returned, or alongside the others, to build a stronger foundation so that the same problems don’t return. Rituals focus on loyalty, harmony and long-term commitment, and may lead naturally to marriage spells where appropriate.
What you can do: talk honestly about what went wrong and agree on what will change. Consider relationship counselling if both of you are willing.
“The right spell is the one that answers the real question. That is why we read before we act.” — Psychic Mbona
How to know which approach you need
You don’t need to work this out alone. During a consultation, Psychic Mbona performs a reading to understand why the relationship ended and what is standing in the way now. Most situations call for a combination of approaches, in a particular order. For example, a couple separated by a jealous relative might need Way 1 first, followed by Way 2 and then Way 4.
He will also tell you honestly if he does not believe reconciliation is in your best interest — for example, if the relationship was abusive. In that case, the focus turns to spiritual healing and helping you move forward.
An example of how the approaches combine
To show how this works in practice, consider an illustrative example. Imagine a woman who contacts Psychic Mbona after her partner of five years has moved out. They had argued more and more in the final year, and she believed his sister had encouraged him to leave. Since the separation, he had refused to answer her calls.
The reading suggested that the bond between them was still strong, but that resentment on both sides and pressure from his family were keeping them apart. The work therefore began with Way 1, focusing on calming the family influence. Next came Way 2, rituals to soften anger. She was advised to stop calling and to focus on her own wellbeing for several weeks.
Only when contact naturally resumed did the work move to Way 3, reawakening warmth and attraction, and later to Way 4, strengthening commitment once the couple began talking about the future. At each stage she received guidance on how to respond. Not every story unfolds this way — but it shows why matching the approach to the situation matters.
Realistic expectations
None of these approaches can guarantee that a particular person will return. Spiritual work does not override free will, and every situation is different. Many clients experience renewed contact, softer feelings and reconciliation; others gain clarity and closure. Timing varies widely — see how long a love spell takes to work.
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Find out which way is right for you
Contact Psychic Mbona for a private reading on WhatsApp at +27 72 196 5161 or by email at info [at] voodoolove-spell.com. He will listen, explain what he sees, and help you choose the path that fits your situation.
Please note: spiritual services are offered for personal, cultural and spiritual purposes. Every situation is different, results vary and no outcome can be guaranteed. Spiritual work is never a substitute for professional medical, legal, financial or psychological advice. Read the full disclaimer.